The Love Languages of Cats: Delilah

We are nearing the end of our series on the Love Languages of Cats, with just Delilah and Sassy left to share about. We certainly hope that maybe you’ve learned a little something about the many different ways cats may express their love. Even just in our home of 6 cats, you can see that we cover a wide range on the “Lovey Spectrum,” with Sophie on the extreme lovey side and Caster on the not-so-obviously lovey side. Remember though that just because a cat doesn’t seem to be loving, that doesn’t mean he isn’t. You first have to unlock the key to his love language, and then you will enter into a whole new world of love!

The Love Languages of Cats: Delilah

Delilah is definitely a loving cat, but she can also be temperamental. She whaps, she “bites,” she growls – usually when she doesn’t get her way. Okay, I admit it… Delilah is a brat! But she is a sweet one.

  • Delilah on the TableShe loves to be on you, and she’s demanding about it. Whether I’m on the couch, at the table, at my desk, at the piano, Delilah wants to be on top of me. She is never satisfied with just sitting beside me. She’s pushy about it too. She will just jump or force her way onto my lap, chest, or shoulders, and if I try to get her to just sit next to me, she stays for a second and then inches ever closer until the next thing I know she is back where she wanted to be originally. If I again try to move her, I usually get whapped, nipped, or grunted at.
  • She gives lovey eyes. Big time. You know the look you see couples give each other in movies when they are being really cheesy and going ga-ga over each other? Well, Delilah gives that look a lot. I’ll glance over at her, and I am met with a stare that undeniably says “I love you.”
  • She reaches out for you. When she’s sitting with me AND giving me lovey eyes, she will sometimes reach a paw out towards my face and pat it. It’s like she’s politely asking me to stop what I’m doing and give her my full attention. This is her ultimate lovey combo move.
  • She sleeps on my pillow. Every night. When I get in bed, Delilah jumps up and sits on my stomach or chest while I’m reading or perusing the internet on my phone, impatiently waiting for me to flatten my pillow and turn the light out. Once that happens, she takes her place on my pillow atop my head, where she sleeps for the remainder of the night. She can sometimes be a pillow hog, and when I try to scoot her over she may whap, grunt, or nip me, but I don’t mind. I absolutely love this bed-time routine. I especially love it when she reaches a paw down for me to hold, or when she comes down off the pillow to lay beside me in my arms. While she loves to be on my husband too, and gives him lovey eyes and reaches out for him to same way she does to me, the pillow sleeping routine is a special Deli-and-Mom thing. <3
  • She brings me presents. Sometimes Delilah leaves her pillow perch in the middle of the night to go “hunting.” I know this because occasionally I wake up with not just a Deli on my pillow, but a stuffed owl, carrot, or whatever her toy-of-the-moment-is beside me or in my face.

Sure, Delilah can sometimes get on my nerves when she persistently tries to be on me all the time or when she whaps me (especially when her claws are sharp), but underneath her “brattiness,” you can see that she is a huge love bug. Her love language is just one of insistence 🙂 Once you realize this, it’s hard to ever get annoyed with her because all she ever wants to do is be lovey.

The Love Languages of Cats: Delilah on my Shoulders

Do you have an insistenly lovey cat like Delilah? 

By Emily


  1. Reply

    Lone Star Cats

    Delilah sounds like Angelique!

    P.S. Momma luvs her name – she had a basset hound named Delilah when she wuz younger.

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    Delilah is a little bit like Binga! She is temperamental and sometimes bites. I think she believes they are love bites, but they are kind of hard!

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    Ellen Pilch

    Awww…Delilah is a sweetie. I share my pillow with Sammy at night, meaning he gets 75 % of it 🙂

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    Hindy Pearson

    I had a group of 5 cats quite some time ago, each with their own way of showing love. One cat, Mini, absolutely loved my husband. She would sit with him, sleep next to him and follow him around. Another named TT was very aloof, and only starting sitting next to me on the couch after about a year. Thanks for showing that each cat has their own unique love language and we just need to take the time to observe what that is in each of them.

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    Tenacious Little Terrier

    Mr. N doesn’t insist on being on you but he does like to be right next to you and touching you. He does demand petting by shoving his head under your hand.

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    Golden Daily Scoop

    Delilah is adorable! The Goldens like to be right next to me during the day and when it’s bedtime they do pretty well staying on their own beds. If given the chance to be on our bed they would jump at it for sure. lol

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    The Island Cats

    We like the way Delilah shows her love. 🙂

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    Delilah sounds like Bear. He was homeless when we met and so incredibly loving that I had to adopt him. I wasn’t used to a loving, clingy cat and I tensed up for the first couple months every time. Now I can’t sleep without him ON me. It’s beautiful 🙂

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    Beth Patterson

    It sounds like you have figured Delilah pretty well! I’m glad that her presents are all plush! I know someone who has been gifted a few barely alive mice in the middle of the night.

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    The Swiss Cats

    Delilah has such cute ways to show her love ! Purrs

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    Delilah’s love languages are adorable. So cute that she loves to be on top of you. Love the photo of her on your shoulder!
    Goro brings presents to his dad all the time 🙂

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    Lola The Rescued Cat

    OK, Delilah and I are definitely kindred spirits! That is SO me! I do that to Mommy ALL the time. I never give up.

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    Ruth Epstein

    Delilah reminds me of my cat I had in Israel, Sasha, he loved being on my lap or wherever I was – a big loving cat whom I adored

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    Dash Kitten Crew

    I know what you mean about the evening ‘routine’. Our Harvey comes up when I turn out the light and spends (far too long *sigh*) a little bit of time purring and settling down. I’m not too tired to be patient (really….) but I am so proud of my boy – coming from a traumatised rescue who hid under the bed to purring snuggler. I lie there and I think – you are safe now, warm now, cosy now and I am the lucky one who cuddles you.

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    Talent Hounds

    My cat Nala was very insistent with me and very “loving”. She enjoyed sleeping on my pillow but I was allergic so I did not encourage that. She often went out hunting and roaming around the house at night so we did not have much of a routine after we finished cuddling and scratching her head watching TV.

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    The Daily Pip

    Delilah sounds like Rosie. She also has to be with me (in fact she is here right now). The only thing she doesn’t do is bring me gifts. She’s not much into toys or hunting – much prefers sleeping and snuggling.

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    Tonya Wilhelm

    We have a Delilah too. Your girls sounds so sweet and incredibly loving. I love that she goes hunting and brings you prizes. How sweet and kind of her.

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    Cathy Armato

    Delilah sounds so sweet! My cat Maggie was one who always wanted to be on my lap. I couldn’t sit down without her jumping on my lap. She’d slowly inch over & shove Phoebe right off my lap if Phoebe got there first, LOL!! She was a pushy one!
    Love & biscuits,
    Dogs Luv Us and We Luv Them

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    Delilah reminds me of my dog Izzy, a brat but a lover and never a dull moment with her!

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    Sweet Purrfections

    Delilah definitely wears her emotions on her “sleeve”. MOL

    Seriously, we’re a little different in showing our love to Mom Paula, but recently, we’re being a little more overt about our feelings.

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    Jenna Hughson

    Oh she is gorgeous! It’s funny, each of my 3 kitties all have their own way of showing love.

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    That sounds like Minko…he *is* pushy and insistent about the fact that when he wants to be loved, it has to be on the desk where I am working…and if I put him on the chair or my lap, he eventually sneaks right back until he gets his way…and um…I am a sucker:)

    Deliah is oh so furry purrty!!!

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    Three Chatty Cats

    Ha! Delilah sounds like our Sophie. A brat! But a sweet brat.

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    What an adorable kitty!

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    Kitties Blue

    Delilah and Misty May sound exactly alike. Delilah definitely has the lovey eye thing going on in her photo above. Astrid is sending Sampy oodles of love and kisses. The last few days she has spent most of her time burrowed into the cat cave Sampy gave her for Christmas. None of the others have even tried to get in it; though, we don’t think any of them would fit! Sending lots of love to all. XOCK, Lily Olivia, Mauricio, Misty May, Giulietta, Angel Fiona, Astrid, Lisbeth, Calista Jo and Cooper Murphy

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    Carol Bryant

    I love that she brings you presents. She is gifting you in her own special way. I love learning about cats through blogs like this. You always do such a great job 😉

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    Spencer the Goldendoodle

    What a sweetheart! My mom had a cat that looks just like her growing up! She had to do a double take when she saw this photo!

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    She’s so beautiful!

    Athena gives me those lovey eyes too. It just melts my heart!

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    Delilah is a combo of Esme and Malou! 🙂 She sounds like a real sweetiepie 🙂 Tell your Mama that our Mama will send her an email this weekend! Sending her and all of you lots of love.

    the critters in the cottage xo

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